Last night we went out for sushi at Kogen in Powell. I have only started eating sushi during the past year – before that, the idea of raw fish repulsed me. Now, I love it! Philadelphia rolls, California rolls and spicy salmon and tuna rolls are my go-to faves, each with a bit of wasabi and soy sauce.
Over dinner with Mike, I was thinking a bit about how much life has changed for the better since I started living outside my comfort zone. The divorce opened up more than just my marital status – it opened up my mind and heart. The last year has brought wonderful people into my life: a few very close new girlfriends, a close male friend, several men who simply passed through my life in one or two dinner encounters, and now Mike, who is a wonderful man and great companion. Each of these new people have been the catalyst for new experiences and have helped lead me to a world outside my comfort zone.
Since the divorce, I’ve returned to the seat of a bike, learned that I love sushi and Indian food, gone whitewater rafting, enjoyed a hot air balloon festival (and soon, I hope, a ride, which both excites and terrifies me since I’m afraid of heights). These are just a few of the new experiences that life after divorce has brought. Wonderful new people, interesting experiences – and all it took to get here was to accept the idea that life could be better than I knew it to be. To open my heart to new souls and my mind to new experiences. During the divorce, at one point when I was very afraid, I said to my girlfriend, “I hope I will eventually be okay,” and she replied, “Has it occurred to you yet that you might not just be okay – that you might be better?” She was so right. Once I let go of the idea that my previous life was all there was, life was immediately and infinitely better. And it’s been infinitely better ever since. Life after divorce has more delicious texture and flavor than ever. Crawling outside my comfort zone has added a whole lot of living to my life.