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Life After Divorce

A year of firsts and lasts

Election season is finally over.  The nation is either celebrating or grieving the selection of a new president, and I've just put a big project to rest: for the past few months, I've been volunteering my time as the co-chair of a local levy campaign.  The levy would have funded road repairs and improvements in my town - but it didn't pass.  City officials heard much public input over the type of levy they put…
Life After Divorce

A vacation by myself (and to myself)

The commitment I make to my hobbies and interests is pretty lackadaisical, and I like it that way. To me, hobbies and interests shouldn’t involve commitment, goals, or any aspiration of achievement. I read a great piece recently by author Elizabeth Gilbert on the difference between a career, a job, a hobby, and a vocation. (Interestingly, what led me to read it was that I thought it said “vacation,” and was going to be about…
Home Sweet Home

A new look for a new me

A month from today I’ll be moving into my new home.  Closing is actually July 2, and I’m not moving until July 11 - but I have big plans for those 9 days in between.  The former owner painted the inside walls a riot of colors, and before moving my furniture I’m hoping to neutralize some of that craziness.  Right now, the living room and kitchen paint is a super dark hunter green, with half…
Life After Divorce

Back from vacation!

Crickets have been chirping around here because I was away on a much-needed vacation. Mike and I went east to Philly, Baltimore, and DC. What a great week!  Of all the things we did, what I enjoyed most was our visit to Independence Hall in Philadelphia.  It's just awe-inspiring to stand in the room where our nation was dreamed up, discussed, debated, and ultimately declared to be. This trip was the best vacation I've had…
Home Sweet Home

A new home to call my own

Here's something new - I'm buying a condo! Or at least, it looks that way.  These things are never final until the ink is dry. But, I'm in contract, and I couldn't be happier.  If all goes well, this will be my new home:   I'm tickled pink.  And, in fact, so's the condo - it has walls inside of every color of the rainbow, including approximately four shades of pink.  There is painting in…
Life After Divorce

Dining outside my comfort zone

Last night we went out for sushi at Kogen in Powell.  I have only started eating sushi during the past year - before that, the idea of raw fish repulsed me. Now, I love it!  Philadelphia rolls, California rolls and spicy salmon and tuna rolls are my go-to faves, each with a bit of wasabi and soy sauce. Over dinner with Mike, I was thinking a bit about how much life has changed for the…
Life After Divorce

Part 3: Top 15 things I’ve learned about dating at midlife

(Note: This is the conclusion of a 3-part series.  Read the series from the beginning here: dating in midlife.) 11. Awkward is ok.  First dates and blind dates are awkward. It’s just a fact, and there’s no reason to dance around it.  Acknowledging it can lead to some funny moments and can be a terrific ice breaker.  On my first date with my boyfriend Mike, I arrived at the table really needing to run to…
Life After Divorce

Part 2: Top 15 things I’ve learned about dating in midlife

(Note: This is the second in a 3-part series. Read part 1 of my series about dating in midlife.) 6.  Plan in advance to go on lots of dates.  Chances are good that the first guy you go out with won’t be “the one.”  One of my divorced girlfriends, a fellow biking enthusiast, went on 20 first dates during the course of a year before meeting a man she really clicked with and cared about.…
Life After Divorce

Part 1: Top 15 things I’ve learned about dating at midlife

(Note: This is part 1 of a three-part series.) Many of my girlfriends are happily married, but a few are in some stage of divorce.  One or two of them have recently started thinking about what the world of single men holds in store for them.  It wasn’t so long ago I was dipping my own toe into that pond for the first time, so I thought I’d jot out my thoughts and best advice…
Biking

My journey of 1,000 miles

I grew up in a tiny town in the country back in the days when kids were allowed to explore the outdoors without supervision, helmets, or GPS trackers.  During summer vacation, I spent many hours either swimming or riding my bike. My bike was not exercise back then - it was a combination of joy and transportation. It got me out of town onto the curvy, hilly roads with the wind rushing over me.  For…
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